Despite the suffering these children go through many blame themselves for their parents drug use. They feel that if they didn’t fight, or rooms were kept clean etc. that their parents wouldn’t use. Some children work hard in school and at home to ease the anger of the using parent in hopes that they would stop. Few realize that they cannot cause a parent to drink or use drugs, nor can they resolve a parent’s substance abuse problem. People using drugs are responsible for their own actions and only they can decide when to stop.
Using drugs doesn’t make someone a bad parent. Many Australian parents use drugs like alcohol in a low-risk way that has little impact on their children. Other parents use drugs more heavily and cope pretty well, doing the best that they can in difficult circumstances. Research has shown that in general, mothers with drug addictions cared for their children in the same way as non-addicted mothers. Overall, these mothers tended to use less physical abuse and be less strict in parenting, but were very concerned with their children’s future and thought they weren’t as good a parent as they could be.
But using drugs can negatively affect your ability to parent, and in some cases can also directly affect your child. When parental drug use harms the child in some way, then it becomes a problem.
Drug abusers aren’t bad people and if approached proplery they will acknowledge and take up offers made to help resolve their abuse issues.