Done by me
It became a problem to Erica when Colombian girls began dating much older guys. But I believe that it became a total different picture when her father was actually one of those. I have not yet understood how it occurs. What can a young girl have in common with a much older and experienced man? Most of the girls that date older men have no other way out then to sleep with someone that could support them and take care of them, not as a boyfriend but as a father. So what happens when your best friend becomes your teenage stepmother? What brings this to happen? What does it feel?
We all seen it and ignored it, since it is no of our convenience to get into other people’s lives, at least not in Colombia. Erica whose father just married her ex-best friend told us the story.
“It feels like a direct attack, as if my father and I had entered a battle ground” she said.
She confessed to us that her father had changed completely to satisfy her new wife. “He is no longer the man he used to be” she claimed. Men who get involved with young girls tried to get to their level, into the point they believe that they are as young as them. A father of a teenage of the same age as his girlfriend might forget his priorities.
“While he picked her up at school, I would walk my way home.”
It is no longer about the money, but about support. Even if the man is not wealthy, it would provide more than what their father would. They believe it is about love and commitment, when is really about progressing in life.
Many girls like Erica have fathers that have forgotten about their responsibilities as parents; to satisfy their sexual and emotional needs, dating girls the same age as their daughters. I find that to be the most unpleasant situation. Our society has turned out to be a great disappointment where parenting is no longer a priority.
Having your best friend become your stepmother is an irony in life that I would not desire for any person. In Erica’s case we are...