Ap Language & Composition
May 11, 2009
LGBT: When Enough is Enough
I (Kathy) was confused. And being in foster care made the situation worse. I was constantly being moved from home to home with different influences on me. Did I like boys or girls? Or did both interest me? Only time could tell (Belge).
Being confused about your sexuality and being in foster care at the same time can be a hard thing to grasp. It can be an even harder thing for a foster care parent to grasp. That’s why a lot of families in today’s time don’t want lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender youth as children (Viren). Who would be open to this type of youth? Some seem to think that people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender themselves would make the best parents for this type of youth. I beg to differ; a father and a mother have different qualities/roles that contribute to the success of a child. Sociologist David Popenoe notes the difference that having a mom and a dad makes (J.Richard, 39).
“Fathers tend to stress competition, challenges, initiative, risk taking, and independence. Mothers in their care taking roles, in contrast, stress emotional security and personal safety.” Moreover, “While mothers provide an important flexibility and sympathy in their discipline, fathers
provide ultimate predictability and consistency. Both of these dimensions critical,” Popenoe concludes, “for efficient, balanced, and humane child-rearing”.
There is no evidence to suggest that the children of lesbian and gay parents are less intelligent, suffer from more problems, are less popular, or have lower self-esteem than children of heterosexual parents. The children of lesbian and gay parents grow up as happy, healthy, and well adjusted as the children of heterosexual parents (American, 48). This might be true, but Sociologist David Poepnoe states another strong point.
“There are a lot of imperfections in the lives of foster children but why add to the...